I came to the Women’s Centre when I was in my darkest
moments and there shone a light. I remember the first time I came to the
charity. It was as if I was at the end of walking a tightrope and no hope of what to
do next or what decision to make. I
already had two daughters aged two and three years and was in good relationship
with their father when I found out that I was pregnant again. It was not a
planned pregnancy, but being very sick I was sent for a scan at 9 weeks.
The scan showed I was having twins. I turned to the doctor
and said “I don’t think that what you saw is clear” because I was very shocked
and I was thinking ‘How am I going to
cope with twin babies and two kids under the age of three?’
When I got home I showed my partner the scan and
within minutes he completely shut down. I asked him “What’s the matter?” and he
replied “How do you expect me to cope with an additional two kids?”
My severe pregnancy sickness got so much worse that I
was booked in for a scan at 12 weeks. Here I was feeling very sick, with so
much going through my mind. My partner’s attitude had completely changed. The
sonographer couldn’t confirm my scan result, so I knew something must be up.
She called in a doctor who during the scan turned to me and said “I can confirm
there is a third heartbeat. - Who said
you were having twins? No, its triplets”
TRIPLETS? I broke down, crying, weeping so hard. I
could see that it should be a blessing, but how was I going to manage going from
having two kids to having five kids? Especially with my partner already saying
that he cannot cope and now having to tell him there is one more baby added to
the twins!
Then the doctor seeing how broken I was turned and
said “we can offer you a chance of ‘foetal reduction’ as having five children
under five it will be so difficult for you to cope”. She told me this procedure
can reduce the number of foetuses from three to one or two.
I called my partner from the hospital and he said “Yes,
you must consider it, we can’t manage financially or cope with three babies”,
considering that he was the only one working. He made it very clear that if I
don’t accept the foetal reduction that he would not be there to support me.
When I got home he was still pressurizing me for the foetal reduction. The
pressure was so much I remember crying myself to sleep for nights considering
that option. I had to open up to a friend about what I was going through. She
told me about The Good Counsel Network and gave me their contact number. I rang
and got an appointment to see Yvonne. I remember the first day I walked to the
centre I felt like they tied a knot and the end of the tightrope and ask me
to hang on. They told me not to consider the foetal reduction that there will
be help. I can’t explain how I felt after the appointment but they guided me to
see hope. Light in the midst of the dark moment.
Keeping the babies was the best decision I ever made
and the Good Counsel helped me. Yvonne promised to help me. They gave me money
for food and bills and when the babies were born they provided me with full
support, baby food, clothes, moses baskets and basically everything. Suddenly I
had someone to talk to waking up every day knowing the next food on the table
was available for my kids.
My triplets were born in August 2017 at 32 weeks two
boys and a girl weighing 1.2kg, 1.4kg and 1.6kg respectively, such amazing
babies so full of life with such potential, with the biggest smile that keeps
me going on each day thanks to The Good Counsel Network. I am still receiving
support now. To everyone who gave generously to see hope, care, support, giving
to someone like me, having a place that tells you everything is ok no matter
how hard your situation is, a place that tells you we love you, we will care
for you, I say thank you so much. I am a happy and proud mum because of you all.
Thank you, Thank you, Thank you.
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