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Friday, 27 February 2026

My Life Was Changed Forever By Pro-Life Vigils

 



What effect does a 40 Days for Life Campaign have?

My answer is a rather roundabout one, and it is threefold; a bus ride, two pairs of skates, and a notebook!

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                I think we were going home from a party – but I’m not sure, it was when I was such a young child that it merges with other memories from around the same time. All I know is that myself and Isaac ended up on the longest bus ride of our lives, going to my house. It was one of those charming single-decker buses that are going out of fashion now. It took a very peculiar route, because it should have been a journey that took at most half an hour, if one went in a fairly straight line from there to our home, but this bus route had clearly not been designed with a ruler in mind, or direct connection of locations as a priority. It meandered down back streets, the little nowhere neighbourhoods that fill the gaps between the major places-to-be in London, and did not appear to care when it finished its journey. Another thing that may have a made it feel so long was that we were sitting down together, but were unable to play. At the age of four or five, vocabulary is thin and there is not enough of it to fill an hour or two with conversation.

What I do know is the freedom that we received upon getting off the bus filled us with a joy that arriving at home does not normally cause, and at last our inability to play much on the bus and the silence that had resulted was replaced by wildly energetic rampaging in our back garden. The longer the wait, the more the light at the end of the tunnel is appreciated.

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Slicing through the thick, glassy mass of frozen water, also known as a skating rink, I proudly surveyed my success in my newly discovered hobby. There were definitely skaters on the rink who were worse than me. I had barely fallen over once. Well, maybe once. Not more than that, anyway. Another friend had joined me – let’s call him Ben – and he had fallen over a lot more than me. That may have possibly been because I stayed very close to the edge and had my hand out, ready to grab the handrails if a tumble seemed likely. Ben, on the other hand, went for a bolder style of skating, impetuously going out into the middle and falling over a lot, of course, but learning from his mistakes. I’m not sure who was the better skater in the end. Perhaps there is something to be said for both points of view. My mother still laughs at the video of me falling over that one time.

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When you are around the age of seven, there are few gifts more exciting (in my opinion) than a notebook that has never been used. There is endless potential for filling the notebook, and even the thought of it, and the plans you can make of what to put on the pages, are enough to fill many happy hours. This was what happened to Colette, a friend of mine, when we were both staying in the same house. We created worlds together. Colette – being the younger by some years -would dictate her stories to me, and I would write them down on the left-hand pages of her notebook. The right-hand side was kept for all of the brightly coloured pictures of the characters that the pair of us would draw, long before the page of writing that was meant to accompany each one was finished. Our story’s plot may not have been the most logical, nor the deepest, but it had its good points: A pleasant enough family came into difficulties when discovering a poorer family, and one of the older girls made up her mind to help them. Perhaps it was a stereotypical plot, but to us it felt like the most original story written since the early days of literature. It provided more than enough entertainment for many a rainy afternoon (and one particular occasion when Colette had a minor accident and couldn’t run around too much) and deepened our friendship through our shared creative experience.

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                What does all this have to do with a 40 Days for Life vigil? Well, quite simply, it was prayer vigils like 40 Days coupled with the work of the GoodCounselNetwork.com that caused these events to happen. If history was re-written, if no-one had ever gone and prayed outside an abortion centre, what difference would it make? Now this is a question that is very easy to answer:

                There would have been no little boy named Isaac on the bus that day ten or twelve years ago; that pair of skates Ben was wearing as he fell over so many times would have been empty; and the pages in Colette’s notebook would all be blank, untouched, devoid of the colourful lives of the characters she invented to fill them with,

because none of them would have lived to do any of those things.

All three of those friends – Isaac, Ben, and Colette – were the children of women who turned around at the gates of the abortion centre thanks to vigils just like 40 Days for Life and received help and support from Good Counsel. They chose life for their baby, some of them in very difficult situations, which took a lot of courage. They were, however, provided with genuine help and support (Have a look at Good Counsel’s blue leaflets at the vigils for just a small example of the help we give!) that made a reality of what had seemed impossible – motherhood.

                Maybe you’ve never been to a 40 Days for Life before, maybe you’re a regular volunteer, maybe you used to come but times have changed and something’s holding you back from returning. Whoever you are, it can be very easy to wonder why we should bother to keep on running 40 Days for Life every year no matter what, especially with the news for pro-lifers so decidedly disheartening right now. Is praying on a street corner, 150 metres away from an abortion centre any use? Of course it is! We have to do the best we can do to save lives, and if 150 metres away is the closest we can get, that is the best we can do. If Ben, Isaac, and Colette were the only children to be saved by all these years of pro-life vigils in England, Wales, and elsewhere, wouldn’t it still be worth it? Isn’t that hour of public prayer, as little as once a week or as often as thrice a day, worth it once you think about every little moment, like the three I’ve recorded here, that will make up a tiny part of a whole life, thanks to your witness? Isn’t every little snapshot of life, every little scene that make up the drama of human life, infinitely precious? It is for me.

                That is the effect of a 40 Days Vigil; a bus ride, two pairs of skates, and a notebook.

Nathanael

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